Have you ever heard of the saying "A picture is worth a thousand words?" Well in the case of online dating, this old cliché is actually very accurate! In fact, just one of your dating profile pictures can communicate multiple things about you - outside of just what you look like. After all, you can only say so much in your online dating profile write-up, why not allow your photos to visually speak for you too?
And when you know how to take advantage and allow your pictures to work FOR YOU (and not AGAINST YOU), you will increase your chances of attracting more high-quality women your way. In this post, I'm going to share with you some online dating profile tips and the perfect profile pictures for guys (backed by science and high-quality women themselves) to improve your online dating profile and attract more high-quality women your way!
Your Photos Make The First Impression
When you visit a woman's profile, what is the first thing that catches your eye? For majority of the single men out there, the first thing they check out is a woman's photos. And it makes sense too why. Most men are pretty visual and want to make sure there is at least an initial physical attraction through dating profile pictures. While women are more attracted and drawn to a man's online dating profile write-up, you'd be surprised how many of them check out the profile pictures for guys first too.
Dating platforms know both men and women are drawn to photos in order to make their initial impressions of someone (again, a single picture can communicate a thousand words after all), so pictures are often placed at the top or are the first thing you can see on a profile. This draws your attention to their first to see if you are even initially attracted before spending more time checking out the rest of their profile too.
Pictures are also important too, as just like online dating profile write-ups, this gives you the opportunity to visually communicate with a woman more about you, your interests and hobbies, interesting places you've visited, etc. Pictures allow a woman to visually get to know you a bit more, while also providing a variety of possible conversation topics, if she were to message you first or to reply back to your message to start a conversation with you.
Make The First Impression Count
So now that you know your photos make the first initial impression, it's important to make them count. Because if you're not getting messages back from high-quality women, then a big reason why could be because of your photos. If women aren't feeling engaged or attracted to your photos (and it rarely has to do with what you specifically look like, and more likely your photos overall with things like bad lighting, background, etc.), then they are going to be quickly clicking off your profile.
No matter what online dating site or app you are using, anything from Plenty of Fish (POF) to Bumble to eHarmony to Match, you have at least 6 picture slots available for you to fill. In some cases, you might even have more. This means you have at least 6 photo options to choose from that are going to make THE best first impression of you with women who visit your profile.
When it comes to your photos, you want to make sure every single one is showcasing all the amazing aspects that make you unique - from your personality all the way to what your interests and hobbies are. And yes, you can convey all of that in just a simple photo! You also want to choose photos where YOU feel most attractive and confident in.
However, if you are finding your inner critic coming out on every photo of yourself you look at, first of all, you need to work on your mindset and confidence then (which is something you should work on before even considering going on dates with women). Outside of that, you can also consider higher a photographer to take your online dating profile pictures too.
You'd be surprised how many people out there do this and how many photographers offer packages specifically dedicated to online dating profile pictures. A big part of a photographer's job is take pictures that you look really good in, so it might be worth the investment for you! A photographer's pictures are also going to be way higher quality than you could ever take yourself in your basement (no dark basement selfies please).
So what type of dating profile pictures should you be posting? Well let's explore that further through my online dating profile tips. Here are my six photo online dating tips for men that will instantly boost your online dating profile and give it a major facelift.
Don't Hide Your Face
I feel like this tip should be obvious, but you'd be so surprised to hear how often men hide their face. In my online dating tips for men, this is a BIG NO to do. However, some men might do this because it thinks it makes them look cool and mysterious, but more often it creates a negative feeling in a woman's mind when she sees a photo like this.
To a woman, this photo can communicate a number of things about the man, negative thoughts like how he looks sneaky, like he has something to hide, or even a lack of confidence. You might think it's a stretch for a woman's mind to go there, but women are naturally very observant and we tend to think a lot. We are also generally pretty in-tune with our feelings and intuition. And if we feel negative thoughts looking at your photos, then we are going to click away pretty quick.
So what things can block your face in pictures? Objects, like the cup in this photo, could be blocking out your face. Some other things you also want to avoid are sunglasses (as the cliché goes, the eyes are the windows to the soul), Snapchat-like filters (yes men, just like you, we don't want to see you as a dog sticking your tongue out either), and masks (like a full-face Halloween mask).
Remember To Always Smile
Everyone loves a good smile, and you should be showing off your smile as much as possible! For some reason though, a lot of men in pictures tend to think that they should look serious instead, as they think that makes them look more manlier or something. The problem with this though, is that it actually makes you look like a man who doesn't like to have fun or has a silly side at all.
Both men and women are attracted to other people who are smiling in their photos. Why is that? Because smiling puts positive vibes into a woman's mind when she sees your photos. A photo of a man smiling tells her that the man she is looking at is a fun guy who has a playful side to him.
In fact, a woman might even go as far as to associate that guy with having a good time, and if she were to go on a date with him, she would definitely have a lot of fun with him no matter what. Now, wouldn't you love to make a woman think that way when she sees your pictures? Of course you would! You want to make a woman happy on a date and have a good time together. So flash those pearly whites in your photos as much as you can!
Avoid Selfies As Much As Possible
Now there's nothing wrong with taking a selfie and uploading it to your online dating profile (depending on what exactly is in the photo and what you're communicating non-verbally), but it's generally preferred to stay away from them. For example, one of the most common selfies men tend to share to their online dating profile is shirtless mirror pictures (especially in their bathroom). This particular shot should be avoided at all costs.
Why is that? Well for the men that are uploading these kind of photos, they feel that women will be attracted by how their body looks like. Sure they might attract some women their way maybe, but they will be very low-quality women. High-quality women are not attracted to these types of photos, finding them super cheesy and cringeworthy.
The only time you should ever consider uploading a shirtless photo is of you in the moment where you are doing something that requires your shirt to be off naturally, like going for a swim (which could showcase your interest in swimming too). This would be a great photo to use that speaks to your interest directly and makes a great conversation topic with a match.
In addition to all this, using pictures that you didn’t personally take yourself shows us women another thing too – that you have at least one other person in your life. If all you are uploading is selfies to your online dating profile, this can give off negative vibes to a woman that you are a lone wolf/lonely and have no one else in your life. It can even go as far as making a woman think you might be "desperate" for anyone to provide you with companionship in your lonely life.
Think Before You Upload That Group Shot
Uploading group photos are a great way to showcase you are a fun and social person, that you have other people in your life that you enjoy being around, and they enjoy being around you too. But before you upload that group photo, there's a few things you need to consider.
The first thing you need to consider is who you are in the group photo. You need to make this super obvious to a woman visiting your profile. There are a few ways that you can tackle this challenge. First of all, never make your group photo your main photo. This will make a woman have to search to figure out who you are in the first place. The best way you can tackle this challenge ultimately though is to blur or cover the faces of others in the photo except yourself. This makes it super easy for a woman to figure out who you are right away.
If you don’t want to do this, then take a close look at who exactly is in the photo with you. Never upload photo with a woman next to you. A lot of men do this, thinking it will automatically make women think they are more attractive, but actually it does the opposite. Because when we see a photo like this, women automatically go into questioning mode thinking “Who’s she? An ex? A friend you want to have sex with?” And we instantly get turned off. It's just where our minds go to automatically.
With group shots with friends, only upload pictures where you are the most attractive looking one in the group. Now this might be a bit difficult to figure out, especially if you suffer from low confidence and self-esteem issues but use your best judgement here. Because I guarantee she will be scanning out the other options and checking out your friends. If you are the most attractive one, that will increase her attraction to you. But if you're not, instant turn-off, as she's going to be thinking about how she wants to chat up your friend instead.
Upload Outside Action Shots Of You
Women love seeing men in action! In fact, all of us loving seeing someone who is up and doing something interesting, keeping active, etc. vs just sitting at home on the coach. We love seeing men who are out there getting things done and switching up their lives with some variety. Outdoor, natural lighting is also very flattering for photos too!
Now I'm not saying you'll never attract your dream woman if you enjoy playing video games or watching TV and movies in your free time, or just having a night inside in general, however you do decrease your chances of actually having a long-lasting relationship with said woman. As humans, we're not naturally meant to be cooped up inside and all alone, at least not for the majority out there.
Now there's nothing wrong with the occasional movie night in or playing video games, but it's nice to switch it up and get out there. This not only provides variety in your life (which is very attractive to women), but also allows you to leave your home to actually go out and meet women out in the world, increasing your chances of attracting your dream woman to you.
Author: Rebecca Bartley, Dating & Relationship Coach for Single Men
Rebecca Bartley is the Founder/Dating & Relationship Coach for Dating Bites, a coaching company dedicated to helping single men tackle their dating and relationship issues to attract their dream woman and form a long-lasting relationship together. With over 10 years worth of industry knowledge and experience when it comes to dating and relationships, Rebecca has been coaching both men and women to become more successful in their relationships and the dating world overall. If you are interested in working one-on-one with Rebecca, click here to book a FREE Strategy Call with her to start seeing results and improving your love life today!